I truly believe that being positive is the key to success. Sure there are other things, such as passion, motivation, speaking things into existence, but it all starts with having the right mindset. As someone who has experienced depression, I am quite aware of how the smallest inkling of doubt can turn into a massive plague that can start to destroy your mind. During these times it can be hard for me to find peace. Peace is so important. It’s important to be able to tune out the chaos around you, focus, and find your center. While I haven’t figured out the key to always obtaining peace (or how to get airlines to give me plane tickets for free…), I do know that relying on my faith is the way that I weather the storm.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes, scriptures, “reminders” (as I affectionately title them) that I use to help create a peaceful atmosphere when I feel the waves are crashing around me.
Hello to this body that I have trouble loving – my body. My body that is big and fat and causes me so much strife yet joy at the same time.
Hello to this body. This body that I want to love and embrace. That I want to flaunt and decorate, yet I hide because I am oh so uncomfortable and terrified.
Hello body. My body. My body that takes me places. And that keeps moving. And keeps going. And warns me not to overeat, though I do it anyways. Hello.
Hello body. My body. The body that I hurt. The body that hears harsh words and endures bruises and feels intense stares of hatred.
Hello body – my body. You are mystical and magical and even though we have this love hate relationship, mostly me hating you, thank you.
Thank you for never giving up on me. I appreciate you. Today and always.
— 18 March 2017
Body image is something that I am constantly & consistently working on. Just a minute ago, I was on Instagram comparing my body to other women. What’s funny is sure, a size 2* would be great especially when shopping, I am comparing myself to other plus size ladies wishing I was them. A more slim stomach. more toned thighs, less flabby arms…the list goes on and on. I think it’s so easy when your down to nitpick every single thing about yourself. Because I do have issues with my body especially with the weight I gained, I am taking measures this summer to get back on the path of health and well-being. Here are some simple (thinking positively!) steps that I am taking in order to better myself and my health for myself.
Walk more. | Parking further away from shops (unless at night), taking the stairs instead of the elevator, going for walks
Using the Uni gym while it’s still “free”. | VSU is getting my money and I haven’t spent any time at the rec center. When I attended UT Arlington (Go Mavs!), I was at the MAC whenever I had the time. It’s time to put those fears aside and go work out.
Utilize my resources. | This also ties in with the step above, but sometimes the gym can give me anxiety. I kind of just walk on the treadmill and call it a day. YouTube has so many free videos that I can watch and do workouts at my place.
Eat for health, not for emotions. | I’ve always had an interesting relationship with food – and not in the best way. I know that it may take some time to revamp my relationship with food, but it’s something that I need to do if I ever want to make a lasting change in my life.
Out with the old, in with the new. | This applies to thoughts and feelings, but in this case, it really applies to my wardrobe. I have been trying to make a change in my wardrobe for years now and I haven’t curated a wardrobe that I can take with me into my future. In the past, I enjoyed all different types of colors and prints and big jewelry, and while those things are okay, that’s not really my style anymore. I enjoy pops of color and more street fashion looks, but I also enjoy very minimal, very black and neutral wardrobe styles. Slowly but surely, I want to donate clothes that no longer make me feel happy and bring me job and replace them with basic staples that make me happy.
This is for ME. | I tend to be a person who cares about what everybody thinks about me. Am I pleasing family? Friends? Random strangers that I will never see again? Are they proud of me? If I do this change, say this, want to live here, ect. will everyone be okay with it? It’s so annoying and I end up depressed, stressed and worrying and overthinking and overanalyzing everything. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS YA’LL! I’m working on reminding myself that my life and my choices are mine. As long as I make choices that I can live with and I am trying my best to please God, then that’s all that matters at the end of the day.
These are just some of the ways that I am going to start working on my body issues. I feel that these also apply to other aspects of my life, but I know that they will all connect and help me in the long run.
What are you all doing to better your mental health?
*I am by no means body shaming anyone. I am speaking of my own personal experiences, thoughts, and feelings.
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• Exfoliate & Refine Pores | Featuring Red Algae || I really love this mask! It helps to unclog and tighten pores, exfoliate dead skin cells and smooth imperfections as well as refresh and allow skin to breathe. Before this mask, I hadn’t introduced any products with red algae to my routine. But, I love how the Red Algae helps to really help my skin shine! What I also love about this exfoliator is that it isn’t too rough on my skin. It does a great job of truly exfoliating without being too harsh.
• Purify & Mattify | Featuring Eucalyptus || This mask feels like home – a home that I always want to dwell in! My mum used to always have these Eucalyptus plants at home that would instantly calm me, so at the smell alone, I was already hooked! This mask helps to absorb impurities, unclog pores, reduce excess shine and allows your skin to look amazing! As someone who has oily skin, this mask is great to use especially before a big event or on a daily basis. Out of All of the masks, this is definitely my favorite one!
• Affordable (In Wal-Mart & Target, near me, they retail for ~$9.50 – $10)
• Actually lives up to their claims
• Great packaging – glass jars with a secure lid; detailed info about masks on the box
• Comes in two options – glass jar or squeezable tube
• Would love if it came with a brush of some sort to apply the masks for the jar option
Thank you so much to BzzAgent & L’Oreal Skin for these amazing masks! Have you tried them? What are your thoughts? Let me know below!
Being in constant transition is ultimately tiring.
Currently there are frozen vegetables in my crockpot. I’m making soup because I am cold and soup is one of those dishes that makes me feel better. I have papers on papers to do. My procrastination is still at an all time high. My self-sabotage is, as well. I do a great job of starting but never finishing. I don’t want my life to be that way, but it is one of the only things that I have been consistent at. Besides the usual self-pity party, I now realize that my life can somehow be summed up as condensation on a jar.
As of late, I have been staring at the wall and crying. I spent two hours on the phone with my mum earlier this week because my relationship with God is nonexistent and I’m scared of my life and any greatness that I might have within me. I can’t see it, feel it and I’m afraid that I was in my prime almost ten years ago, but never fully took advantage of it. If high school was my prime, well then God help us all.
I am tired. Of myself. Of putting myself out there. Of using my body as a bargaining chip. For someone who is so self-conscious, it’s interesting that I seek love in the physical form which in turn has hurt and challenged (read: changed) me internally more than anything. I want to be the Ciara before I made mistakes, but does she even exist?
I wrote in my phone the other day something to the fact that I am always good at hiding my emotions, but what if that starts to crack and the fact that I was so good at hiding them, it won’t exist anymore. I think that is the day that I’m scared of the most.
With summer quickly approaching, I am currently stocking up on goods for the remaining spring season and the upcoming summer season. South Georgia’s weather has been moody, as of late. With days of rain, humidity, coolness and a mixture thereof, you never know what you will encounter. However, Georgia summers are definitely predictable. Humidity, humidity, humidity! With these thoughts in mind, I have compiled a list, entitled THE GOODS, with four categories – VISUAL, VERBAL, VIBES & VOGUE.
For the rest of April and for the month of May, I want to focus on The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle La Porte. At the beginning of the year, I created a list of goals that I wanted to achieve by the end of 2016. While I have achieved a goal or two, there are a few that I am still working on. I’m hoping that this book will help me find a way to enhance my goals to make them more meaningful.
Another book that I am interested in reading is The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. I’ve heard about this book from a few different vloggers and bloggers and this book is something that I need. Throughout the years I have noticed that I hold on to too many things – some that have value and some that have no value but would make me feel naked without them. I’m hoping by reading this book I will be able to finally let go of the things that are hindering my growth.
Queen Bey just released her sixth full-length album entitled Lemonade. Although I am still processing the album, I am enthralled and enchanted by this body of work. Lemonade speaks volumes about Beyoncé – her life, her music, her blackness – and I for one, could not be more pleased. My emotions are all over the place and this is definitely not a proper mini-review, but what can I say?! Ya girl is in love!
Stand Out Tracks: Hold Up, Don’t Hurt Yourself, Sorry, Daddy Lessons – JUST LISTEN TO THE WHOLE ALBUM TBH!
DΞΔN, a Korean R&B artist, recently released his first ep titled 130 Mood:TRBL. The seven-track EP consists of quite a few features from Dok2, Gaeko of Dynamic Duo, Jeff Bernat, Crush and Zico of Block B. Overall, I think that this is a great introduction to Dean and his voice. If you’re not familiar with Korean R&B, I would say that this is a great place to start.
Stand Out Tracks: What 2 Do (feat. Crush & Jeff Bernat), I Love It (feat. Dok2) & 21
Thanks to AshleyDBeauty’s shout-out, I found out about Linda from HAUSOFCOLOR. I am currently obsessed with her travel vlogs! Her vlogs give me wanderlust as well inspire me to take my traveling aspirations more seriously. Check out the playlist of her travels above!
Not only did Queen Bee release an album – she released a visual album! Lemonade – The Film is visually stunning and as amazing as the album. I suggest that you watch the film and then re-listen to the album. You’ll be glad that you did.
Usually, in this section, I will either have my current style or style inspirations. I am currently in the process of figuring out where I want to take my style. Look forward to more in this section, next time!
I hope you all enjoyed the first installment of THE GOODS!
Be sure to let me know what are your goods for the spring season down below!